Friendship plays an undeniably large role in our daily lives, whether we are aware of it or not. Ever since our toddler years, we have had friends to play and talk with. But what exactly is a friend and why is having one so meaningful?
In a dictionary sense, friendship is a mutual bond between two people. It does not suffice if only one person considers the other as a friend. If you are in this situation and really want to befriend them, getting to know them a bit better by asking questions and hanging out with this person at every opportunity facilitates that process. They may simply be the shy or introverted type.
Becoming good friends with someone requires the exchange of more personal information and just in general, doing things with them. Whether it is playing soccer every weekend, attending a music concert, or working on a science project together, every little memory you create with them strengthens the friendship. Earning their trust is also vital, or your friend will very likely drift away as time goes on. Doing something kind for them and offering support when they need it will greatly increase your chances of being trusted.
There is a difference, however, between a true friend and one that does not truly care about you. If they tend to point out negative things about you, sometimes not in a joking manner, or if they constantly decline your offers to hang out due to other commitments, this person may not be truly a friend. On the other hand, if they sacrifice time to be there when you need them and are able to forgive your mistakes, you very likely have found someone who will stick by your side for a long time.
Real friends influence you in a positive way and therefore enrich your life. The next time you see your best buddies, tell them how much you appreciate them. Because true friendship can be difficult to find, but it will stay with you for decades to come.
These quotes offer further insight into this trait:
“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.” – William Shakespeare
“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself — and especially to feel, or not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at any moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.” – Jim Morrison
“A friend who understands your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile.” – Anonymous
By: Elisa Sung